My Story

I’m a trauma survivor, author, and speaker who spent most of my life in survival mode.

I grew up in a home where violence wasn’t rare — it was the rhythm of daily life. I endured years of abuse, moments where I truly believed I wouldn’t survive. My mother once pointed a gun at me. I watched my parents threaten suicide. I was forced to fight my own brother. I blamed myself for my sister’s seizures. And for a long time, I buried it all. That’s how I learned to survive.

But survival isn’t healing.

When I finally began EMDR therapy, I didn’t expect what would happen next. Session by session, I returned to those memories — the ones I had locked away. I shook. I screamed. I dissociated. I rewired. And little by little, I began to reclaim my life. I wasn’t just surviving anymore. I was healing.

That journey became my memoir, Out of Fight or Flight — a cinematic, chapter-by-chapter reflection of what trauma really feels like… and what healing actually looks like.

Now, I speak to share what I’ve learned. I speak for survivors like me. I speak to honor the counselors who stayed with me through the darkest work of my life. And I speak so others can find their own path forward — one truth, one memory, one breath at a time.

“I didn’t just survive. I went back for the boy trauma tried to destroy — and I brought him home.”

Why I Wrote This

🌀 To put language to what so many survivors go through but can’t say

🌀 To show the real shape of EMDR therapy — the emotions, the breakthroughs, the body

🌀 To give other trauma survivors something I never had: a book that felt safe, real, and raw

🌀 To honor the counselors who sat with me in the fire — and never flinched (So Grateful. Saved my Life.) 

🌀 To say: “You’re not too much. You’re not broken. And you’re not alone.”

Faith. Survival. And Finding Safety.

I wasn’t raised in faith.

In fact, I was raised in fear of it all.

But two Christian counselors sat with me in the darkest parts of my story — with kindness, integrity, and no agenda.

They didn’t “fix” me. They didn’t preach.

They just stayed.

That’s the kind of faith I’ve begun to believe in:

Not the one that explains suffering — but the one that holds it.

On the back of this book, you’ll see a vine and dove. It’s a quiet symbol of that holding.

This Book Is Just the Beginning

I created this website, not just to share a book — but to build a trauma-informed space.

A place where survivors can breathe.

Where counselors and therapists can learn.

Where people can come to understand what trauma really is — and how healing happens, one session at a time.

If you're here, you're part of that space now.

Thank you for coming this far with me.

Want to Connect?

I’m not a therapist — I’m a trauma-informed survivor and storyteller.

I’d love to stay connected with those who feel seen in this work.

You’re Not Alone Here.

Whether you're a trauma survivor, a therapist, a supporter, or someone walking your own healing path — you're welcome here.

You don’t need to have the “right” words.

You don’t have to tell your whole story.

You can just say, “This mattered.”

Or “I’m here.”

Or “What helped you through that part?”

This space was made for that kind of reaching.